Don’t get me wrong I like gay white men way more than straight white men. Most gay white men I’ve met are very open minded people with a lot of empathy. But I feel that the prevailing attitude I see is that most of you would rather just ignore blackness. Not black people but the idea of blackness that our society is pushing. It’s complicated what I’m trying to intimate. On the one hand I’ve literally never felt more at home among a crowd of white men then when it’s a gay establishment. Many gay white men are very nice to me and I don’t feel self conscious around them like I do with some white people. I am biracial. I was adopted and raised by white people. So in a lot of ways I escape a lot of these issues. Most white gay men like me on sight. I’ve made late night drunk fast food runs with so many gay men I had just met 5 min earlier it’s not even funny. They just get along with me. No idea why but I do recognize that as far as my oppression goes as a “racially ambiguous” black person our oppression levels are much more similar than say a dark skin black person raised without the white family, white education and white money. I use the funny terms because as I got older I realized there’s a difference. White money is just sort of always there. It’s never not there in an emergency. White education isn’t something you can just pick up later in life it starts before you reach kindergarten. Even I had to recognize after hearing the stories online shared by other black people that my upbringing was totally different from most black people in the US. I recognize gay white men are oppressed probably more than straight white women tbh. You guys can’t always safely show affection in public. Especially in medical situations good god our medical system is so homophobic and racist. I’ve seen what a lot of gay men witness first hand and it hurts me so much because I know how it feels to constantly be on guard. All I’m saying is that I fit in quite well because I don’t really have any “blackness” to hide but I can imagine black people in black families probably feel the need to assimilate in certain ways. That’s all I have to say. It’s not a full out condemnation it’s more so just an observation from a straight black female. I’ve also known scores of unapologetic gay white males who are the opposite and will literally get in fights over any type of marginalization they perceive is being experienced by anyone in their vicinity. Gay white males have always gone to bat for me in every way imaginable but I can’t help but self reflect as to why. I am decidedly not the image of blackness that America likes to pick on. I’m like Doja Cat black but without the self hatred thing.