El mae M
2 min readNov 23, 2021

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This is weird for me to read. Have you ever considered there are black people who also suffer childhood sexual abuse on top of being bullied and called the N-Word in a predominately white school?

I experienced both racial bullying and childhood sexual abuse independent of each other.

What I mean is that the people who molested me were white and so were the people who bullied me but they didn’t do it at the same time. It came in waves from age 4–11. By eleven I stopped talking at school for the most part.

Other children may have suffered molestation but as adults they grow up and are white. People are willing to give them chances in life even if they are a little weird or a little off from having experienced trauma. That willingness was rarely extended to me. I was very traumatized and this reflected in my behavior. But because I’m not white it was just assumed it was just another “black people problem.”

You know what I mean white people don’t ya?Anything that makes you uncomfortable about a black person or that you don’t quite understand. You attribute to them being black rather than possibly having the exact same experiences as the white people you know. White people who act exactly like the black people you think are inferior for acting that way.

The white college guy that does a ton of drugs listens to loud country or rock and sleeps around with a ton of girls. But he’s just a good kid who is mischievous right?

But a black guy who smokes weed listens to his music loud and sleeps around with a ton of girls is a criminal.

Where as me a traumatized and depressed teenager is dangerous and a bad influence. But your niece with the heavy eyeliner is just alternative and rebellious.

The hoops white people jump through to deflect, pathologize and excuse their racism never ends. It’s literally The NeverEnding Story and the Nothing is what excuses white people have left for their hypocrisy.

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El mae M
El mae M

Written by El mae M

Human Rights.Social Theory. Hermeticism. Ancient History. Literature. Biracial -Transracial- Adoptee

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